RULE #1 - Never approach a puppy first. Always let the puppy approach you, no matter how friendly it looks. Why? Because this allows the puppy to interact with you on his terms, which is going to put you high on his list of cool humans. Many puppy owners are amazed at how quickly their shy puppy takes to me. The only trick is that I sit back and let the dog decide when and how to interact with me.

RULE #2 - Don't crowd his space. We love dogs so much that we have a tendency to want to get really close when we're petting...as close as possible. But imagine meeting a new person and they immediately bent over the top of you, put their hand on your head and brought their face right up to yours. Would you feel at ease with that person?

No reaching over the head. Reaching over their head is intimidating. Puppy's much prefer when pets come from underneath, such as a soft rub under the chin or on their cheek.

Stay out of their face. What is it that makes us think that puppy's love having a stranger get really close to their face? Do we like it? No! A simple rhyme for children holds just as true for adults: Two feet of space can save your face.

Don't bend over the dog. It is much better to kneel down and turn your body slightly sideways to a puppy. You would be amazed at how many dogs turn to mush when you offer them this polite greeting.

Don't stick your hand in their face. I know that somewhere along the line the advice was given to present your hand to a puppy so they can sniff it. Considering dogs have 250 million scent receptors compared to our 5 million, they can smell your hand just as easily if it remains at your side.

Letting the puppy decide how and when to approach you can make all the difference.

RULE #3 - Don't try to convince a shy puppy that you are friendly. How many times have you seen a human pursue a shy puppy, while repeating "It's okay, don't be shy"? Well-meaning dog lovers have a hard time with this one. Our fragile human egos just can't seem to take it when man's best friend doesn't immediately fall in love with us. The truth is, the more you pursue a shy puppy, the more it convinces them that you are scary...and quite rude. Back off, discontinue eye contact and give him a chance to get to know you on his terms.

RULE #4 - Just because he's sniffing you, doesn't mean he wants to be touched. Sniffing is the dog's way of getting more information about you. Let the puppy sniff you and then see where he goes from there. Does he sniff you and then back away or does he sniff you and then start with the whole body wiggle?

Dogs who really love to be pet by strange humans don't keep it a secret. They come in very close, lean into you, wiggling their whole body with their tail. Their eyes look "soft" and even a little squinty, and you may just see that sweet little grin.

RULE #5 - When you do pet the puppy, pet him once then stop and see what happens. If he really enjoyed what you just did, he will move closer or give some other indication that your affections are welcome!